BY MIRANDA PARKER
“Fear tricks us into living a boring life” - Donald Miller
Here I am, sitting at my desk, writing to you with some “millennial thoughts”, well at least that’s what other people would call them.
Being a millennial has a bad connotation but it is not a bad thing. Being a millennial to me means being a dreamer, a doer, a believer and it should not be negatively viewed by the “older” generation. Our generation is being run by this older population. I have been struggling with this idea for quite some time now, what I call society versus the individual. I have noticed that our generation has an unwavering desire for adventure and risk taking, which is a foreign idea to the older generation which naturally includes our relatives. Naturally, we want the people we love and look up to to support us and be happy for the paths we choose as we grow older and enter the world. The “normal” path of life just doesn't appeal to me, it never has. You know, getting a career right out of college, finding a spouse, having kids and living a life just like everyone else. Of course, I want this to happen some day, but not yet, my “millennial self” has a lot to do before then. Besides, being conventional is so overrated, right?
Our generation is exploring new ideas, beliefs, views, careers and just every aspect of life in general.…this makes for a huge cultural, and social change that the older generations just does not understand. Our generation is challenging societal norms and people are having a fit.
In a way, I feel like this “old” society doesn’t allow us to dream or to think bigger than ourselves. Society often puts thoughts in our heads like “you can’t do something” or “you shouldn’t do something” that is non conventional. The pressure to live a “successful life” is becoming more and more prominent. This is causing people to be afraid of going after their wildest dreams. But who even defines the word successful? Shouldn’t successfulness be determined by the individual, not by others? This term has developed into something meaning financial security or wealth. Of course money is important, but that shouldn’t be the only thing that determines success. The achievement of one's goals and the ability to think outside of the box should be counted as successful as well. And hey, having enough guts to break away from this pattern is pretty cool too.
So how do we break away from this stigma? Unfortunately, there is no easy way to do this. In the grand scheme of things, you have to learn not to care of what others think. If you focus on living your life for you, and only you, your dreams and reality should align pretty quickly. And also always trying to remember that everyone has a different path and respecting and supporting that is the most positive thing you can do for someone you care about. This is easier said than done, but believe me, it will be worth it. Be bold, be brave, be fearless and light your soul on fire. In the words of my grandmother, “There is no way you can’t do it”, So what are you waiting for?
One, just one, why aren’t we running like we're on fire towards our wildest dreams?